It’s actually quite funny for me to re-read these points. Most of the time I think I’ve made some good points, but the way I’ve delivered them has clearly come from a place that was a little bit angry and a little bit bitter. I know the list is only 4 years old, but that makes it even more remarkable to see how quickly one can grow, evolve, mature and let things go. Time (and a little bit of therapy) really does heal all (mental) wounds.
Some fair warning, I do use the word vagina a fair few times, so if you’re easily offended by mentions of female anatomy maybe give this post a skip.
- You can’t please everyone, even the people supposed to love you no matter what.
- You’re allowed to change your mind about an issue. Being stubborn helps no one.
- Kindness and concern will come from strange places and not always from who you expect.
- There is a difference between real friends and those out for themselves; learn how to recognise the difference.
- Falafel kebabs soak up alcohol pretty well, but the best hangover cure will always be Red Bull sipped slowly and a big old bowl of pho.
- Dry shampoo is a lifesaver and quite possibly the only beauty product I’ll actively and consistently endorse without prompting or shame.
- Always carry spare band-aids and tampons.
- You’re allowed to say ‘yes’ to things; more importantly, you’re allowed to say ‘no’.
- People will confuse kindness for weakness and shyness for complacency. Speak up for yourself, and stand up for what you believe in.
- There is a very small section of the population who look good with dyed black hair. I am not one of them.
- Beware the people who love to talk about themselves, especially when you need to talk about yourself. They are not your ally.
- Don’t stop talking if someone interrupts you, even if you have to repeat everything you said. Make yourself be heard.
- Never shave your vagina. Just don’t, it’s not worth it. Literally, do anything else.
- If you have to get rid of your vagina hair, (because you want to, not because someone told you to) use cream or wax.
- Never sleep with someone who seems upset that you have hair on your vagina.
- Never sleep with someone who tries to tell you what contraceptive to use on/with/for your vagina and ignores or argues with your requests for a certain one.
- Drunk girls in the bathroom you’ll never see again are the best friends you’ll ever have.
- Magnesium is the god of all vitamins and I will swear by it as a cure for everything from menstrual cramps to sleeplessness.
- There is a difference between friends worth fighting for and friends worth letting go of. Have the insight to tell the difference.
- Run a literal mile from anyone who thinks rape jokes are funny, claims the wage gap is a myth or blames anyone for their abuse, assault or violation.
- Sometimes, in certain situations, you will have to bite your tongue. Others you will bite it when you shouldn’t have. Both are OK, as long as you learn from them.
- In business, get everything in writing. Never wait around for spoken promises that may never come.
- I still don’t know who they designed the majority of swimsuits for and I don’t think I ever will.
- No one should be allowed to be in charge of your happiness except you.
- Fashion of the moment is a time and money waster if you don’t have a passion for it (which I don’t!). Pick things that are simple, comfortable and right for you, regardless of whatever the trend is at the moment.
- Not everyone will agree with you. Pick your battles.
- People will try to make you feel bad about the harmless things you like, such as your taste in music or your penchant for wearing a lot of eyeliner. Fuck them.
- Good things come to those who wait, but don’t wait too long. Better things come to those who fight for them.
- You can have all the time in the world to do something, but if you’re not mentally in the right place for it, then it’ll forever feel like there are just not enough hours in the day.
- All the best laid plans of mice and men, etc etc. Make plans when it makes sense, and go with the flow when it doesn’t.
- Getting older is just realising that basically everyone you know needs some kind of therapy.
- No one thinks about you as often as you think they’re thinking about you!
Until next time, be kind to yourself and create something remarkable!